As soon as I receive it, I pour into the health of that vaga. “I stare at my loved ones, do not silence anything! What work? What work, how did you get on with the diet

In the daily rhythm of life, we increasingly lose control over ourselves, our nervous system is rotting and the fault of this is that there are no negative factors: chronic in the volume, problems with health, constant sleep, unacceptable rіven noise, too much of a healthy enemy. Take care of the calm and do not fight, everything is more complicated and more complicated. And more often than not, we are most embarrassed, we are obsessed with the need to pour yoga on someone. Tim, who wants to get rid of that vicious stake and learn to remake anger and drastically, varto turn respect for the book of the famous psychologist Katerina Burmistrovskaya “Killingness. The Method of Pololannya” (Vidavnitstvo “Nikeya”).

The book is addressed to “those who want to be happy with their family”, but it’s not outrageous: in view of our drativity and anger, our loved ones suffer in front of us. If you want a sound every once in a while, “let a couple out” you can sip stosunki with kim bi there weren’t there - relatives, colleagues and friends. Until then, dratuyuchi, after the fact, we can see the fault and through parts of the sleep of anger we can instill faith in ourselves. Tsі emotsії deprive yourself of an unacceptable siege, you can respect yourself as the best of the squads, the best mother in the world, an unsuccessful practitioner or an incompetent kerivnik.

Descend aggression: how drastically and anger are shown

It is not easy to fight against drativity, but psychologists are happy to get involved in this task earlier, and even irritating and dissatisfaction are only the first chances in such ranks of gatherings of aggression. They let go of anger, rudely figurative shouts and met with assault. Therefore, dramatization can step by step turn into bitterness and physical violence.

“The advance stage of aggression is an alarming call! As before, you were frowned upon by frowns, and now in the same situations you can easily see a cry, which means that you will have to work hard to turn aggression on the front scree, - write in your book Katerina Burmistrova. “Otherwise, without a hitch, aggression will inevitably reappear straight uphill.”

How to get into drama

Krok 1. Reveal regulatory conflicts

First of all, start fighting for drativity, it is necessary to understand nature, to recognize, in some situations, you will sound guilty. First, on what should be respected, - normative conflicts. These are the “rakes” themselves, on which we are attacked every day, things that are repeated day after day, or from day to day, according to the same drive. For example, older children, lower needs, go to school, go to work, and as a result, start to get nervous and fight. Respectfully watch for yourself for two or three days and scrupulously record in a notebook the situation that calls out negative emotions. Then psychologists are encouraged to formulate a forward reaction, so that they prepare themselves internally and do not let anger at a critical moment inadvertently slander you.

Krok 2. Watch for the change of the emotional state

The coming important rock is a fixation of the moment of “emotional transition”: watch out for it, if your camp changes as well. “For example, we were calm, we spoke out of us evenly and kindly, but even then, for the whimpering, we cry out… To analyze the development of the situation, in a way of blaming the development, under the power of all practical, prote for whom the need for methodicalness. I am stressing that it is necessary to fix the results of your warnings on the paper, otherwise the mess will inevitably be brought to the head, - for the sake of the author of the book. - It is important to understand how the whole process is supposed to be. Ring out, start to open up an intrusive thought: “That's it, I can't stand it anymore!” - The axis is already angering us with calamity blasphemy. In some people, in front of you, there are other physical symptoms - for example, they often have breathlessness and heartbeat, red cheeks and reflexively clench their fists. It’s starting to get excited to walk around the room, zachіuchi nakolishhnі objects, or grab for a cigarette, like for a ryatuvalne colo.

Having marked the moment of the "emotional transition", try to get in for 3-5 seconds and balance on the intervision. The author insists that after the great rakhunka, all ways to fight against the power of drativity in the greater world are based on the fact that people stop working for the principle of negaino reguvannya. Sometimes a few seconds are enough to take it in your hands.

However, you still missed the moment, guessing badly that the sound of anger subsides not later, but after 30-40 whilins. At this hour, it’s better not to work anything, and be like some kind of day to help the city of Movchan.

Krok 3. Understand the correct nature of your negative emotions

“For reasonable reasons, blaming negative emotions is a guarantee of success. Good, so you will have to go ahead and expressly formulate the reasons, ”Katerina Burmistrova writes. Main reasons:

1) spadkova anger. “For some people, it is clear that the stench took away its drativity from the recessions, it irritates me to stand strong,” the author recounts.

2) the camp of chronic nervous anxiety. “In its own right, being critical of the stresses of collieries as a whole can reduce the number and intensity of our angry spalahs,” the psychologist exclaimed. Varto recognize your own voznazhenist and understand that in such a state you don’t fight, you just don’t get carried away.

3) anger redirects. “Distribution, which we wiggle at the aliens, sound is redirected from anything else, where there is less undivided object. For example, you are ready to tear apart a person, but the cry “not for the address” is incomprehensibly seen by you as richly careless, - the book explains. - Otherwise, you had problems on the robot, but then the distribution of toys for the supply of toys turned up and there was a wicked anger at the child. Such redirects must be resolutely checked!

Korisna porada: follow the memory of those who are angry - a little bit second-hand and resemble the experience of a different kind - pain, fear, otherwise imagine. Keep an eye on yourself, and you will change your mind, that one of the passive emotions is really “having” behind the skin of angry sleep.

Krok 4. Do not check for success

Only steps, the ice of memory of destruction can, with a year of deeds, change the camp to a better one. “The process of harmonization of the internal state can be characterized by the following formulas: “one step ahead, two steps ahead,” writes Katerina Burmistrova. - For the time being, behave with the senses of the next tolerant read. It’s not good to think about how to fight with anger - to walk without seeing this day for a month. Where it is more important to change yourself, and this process can stretch out for a long time, or even fates. Your task is to learn not to ignore your own anger (in an hour, everything will be called a new ruinous dream), but to express your negative emotions in mature, positive ways. Anger as a whole is subject to control: turning to the object, scho vyklikav negative emotions, you can vichly, vyslovlyuyuchi the main scarga without the sickness of the kill and keruyuchis logical thoughts, and chi not physical strength chi a wide stock of words.

Krok 5

Praise is a richly wild method, lower self-flagellation. To fix your respect less on shortcomings and programs, you will inevitably lead to new wrath.

“Life is accustoming us to remember our mistakes and failures, do not let the little ones know, but we have already overcome them. It’s a pity, not everyone is smart for the sake of goodness: such a camp will require a singing emotional culture, such a deprivation of me, - the psychologist affirms. - If you were able to instill a small crochet in a straight line, if you were able to recognize the nature of your drativity and learned to control at least a little bit, that means, a good ear to lie down.

Are you able to express your thoughts and feel like a cry, if you are angry? If this is the case, then you have already sing-songly remembered that your voice is ruining your dreams with soothing ones, but if you don’t help you reach your own, or better yourself. Change your voices in the conversation, if you are angry, having learned how to speak correctly. Let's turn back to the essence of nutrition and speak your needs calmly and rationally. If you got stuck with a fit of aggression, try to find better ways to get in with your anger in a pre-stroke perspective.

Kroki

Take a timeout

Zupinіtsya in the middle of the speech, as if they remembered that you were shouting. As soon as you feel that your voice is moving, rumble. Navit do not complete your proposition.

Ask yourself: What am I trying to say? What is the best way to say it?”

• If you learn to sound yourself before you start screaming, otherwise, if you start, you can help us to use figurative words, about which you will be sorry, and if you can put a threat to your blues.

1. Get to 10 to calm down. Tse vіdverne your roznіd vіd scho scho viklikaє anger, i allow zasreditsyasya on something else. Repair from 1 and upgrade to 10 or get to 100 to regain control of your emotions.

   • You can rahuvati out loud or to yourself, as you wish.

2. Breathe fresh breath. Leave a place for a sprat of khvilin and take a walk around the outskirts. Perebuvannya on the open air will help you calm down and clear your thoughts, and you can deal with your aggressiveness in a more appropriate way.

   How to calm down on the street:
   Tell the spivrozmovnik that it is necessary to go to the kilka whilin. Say it to the kshtalt: “I need to calm down, but here I can’t do anything. I'll see a little walk." Tse mozhe zdatisya trohi rude, ale nagolovnіshe - tse vyyat z vіshchennya, first of all, you will say those about shkoduvatimete. You can turn around if you turn around.
   Take a walk. Set a quick pace to let off steam. Focus on Russian and heartbeats, breathe deeply. Rukh to calm your body and, zreshtoyu, mind tezh.
   Accept for yourself three words from your honed. It’s possible, if you don’t want to, if you’re angry, but all the same, you might as well wonder at the gloom, leafing through the trees or passing cars. When you inspire yourself to be hvilinka, you ruin the dynamics of your anger.

   Increase the stretch, to loosen the tension. Victory your time-out to relax the m'yazi. Stretch the skin group of m'yazіv, roblyachi deep breath. If you know yoga, you can work out some asanas to increase the tension in your body.

   Relaxation stretch:
   Rotate the body sideways sideways. Trim your hands in a comfortable position, bending your lips. Open the body at the back of one leg, leaving the quilt unruly, then turn it right in the other direction, so that the whole body relaxes.
   Get sick to the scarpets. Heel forward, relaxing your back, and reach with your fingers to your fingers. You can freely lower your head down and relax. It's okay, as you can't reach the scarpets - just reach as far as you can. This posture will help you let your anger in.
   Open the quilt. Spread your legs wider behind your shoulders and bend in your knees. Stretch the palms right above the knees and straighten one arm. Heal the body in the next beak, so that you can see the tension in the buckle and groin. Trim for 10 seconds, and then change sides. Often, the m'yazova tension is set in the area of ​​​​the stegon, so you can help you stretch yoga.

   How to get out:
   Take a deep breath. It is equally important to rebuke yourself in a blow of anger and express your regret. Flatten your eyes, deepen your breath and gain control over your emotions.
   Reply with a calm word. Correct your vibe by saying “Good” or “Good” on the kshtalt. Tse signal to the speaker that you change your tone, and also help you calm down.
   Be honest and broad. Tell your spy that you are doing something wrong, that you started screaming and that you have problems with anger control. Ask for a chat conversation and try to express your thoughts as best as possible.

   Speak whispers. So that the tone and volume of your voice step by step did not go over to the territory of a cry, speak even in a quiet, “homely” voice, or whispers. Say so, nibi at the library. As if you are talking to children, pick up the victorious whisper, or muffle your voice, if you are angry.

   • Whisper my sublime confession: help you to choose the correct volume of your voice, and also guarantee that the speaker will listen to your words and be able to understand what you think.

3. Do not swear by categorical formulations. The deyakі words, yakі vikoristovuєte at splkuvanni, can really irritate you more. Do not win the categorical formulation with the words “zavzhdi”, “nіkoli”, “guilty” or “varto”.

   • Similar words are less likely to stir up conflict, more

     the stench sue, the call of the spymaster and deprive you of little room for maneuver.

Victory "I-remember". Convey your glance in a more effective way, vicariously firm, as if you are listening to your feelings, without attacking the speaker. You might as well say for a moment: “I will feel unimportant if you sleep on our teeth.”

• "I-recognized" allow you to take on yourself the responsibility for the power of the senses, instead of the fact that you should call your friend to everyone.

• Unique "ty-reminder", like putting the blame on a person,

  Nachebto You don’t respect me. You are constantly sleeping!”

Vchitsya better keruvati anger

How to become shy to the point of anger:
Recognize the physical signs of aggression. Keep track of your behavior for a long time and write down your thoughts if you start to get angry. For example, you may have frequent heartbeats, red faces, or sweating.
Assess how you feel as the day goes by. From time to time, state your opinion, so that you will understand how you are reacting to this moment. You can choose to win for which special mobile program or fight your camp for the “scale of anger”, which can be easily known online.
Immediately catch the signs of anger and quickly deal with it. If you see that you start to get angry, report back to your friends, so that you know that you can calm your feelings, first of all, you will see control.

From the early age, the grown-ups instilled in us that aggression is bad, saying, it was necessary to strangle the creaturely part of our nature. We were barked for our slanderous behavior, littered for aggressive behavior, and we were actively punished, as if we reacted incorrectly to the light. Such a pіdkhіd called up to the point where a lot of people grew up with a deformed will and a spent individuality. Zvichka trimati in their hands has become the norm, we called out to wear masks, pidlashtovuvatisya under the otochyuchih. The truth is, that dissatisfaction has not appeared anywhere, the stench continues to accumulate at the tili, splashing at periodic sights and ailments. It’s impossible to go out of a closed circle - you can’t get angry and open your fists, but you need to go where you need to go negatively, so that the stench doesn’t ruin our life. How to fix it?

Methods of work from internal aggression: how to stop looking at loved ones?

Aggression is your protector, it is necessary, so that you are not afraid to express yourself. It is unreasonable to criticize, soromity, cook with her steadily, get involved in mutual respect for everyone.

Recognize your aggression, pinch in it

The more you hinder yourself, the more you feel. Zreshtoy, in view of the fact that you don’t know the reason for a part of your “I”, this part can’t go anywhere, but you begin to take revenge. It’s like a child who is not carved, as if you can’t hide yourself, close it in a dungeon, stick it on a face painted with a smile. But you can embrace it, try to grow up in a new place well and ... fall in love. Think about those who, without internal aggression, could not in any way protect themselves in society, fulfill their needs, achieve important goals for you. Aggression is your protector, it is necessary, so that you are not afraid to express yourself. It is unreasonable to criticize, soromity, cook with her steadily, get involved in mutual respect for everyone.

One of the main reasons for the increase in aggressiveness is the name of a person to hang on to their attention from the fact that everyone can feel it. The problem is that the real world is seen as fantasies, people do not blame you. Feel free to shift to them all for your own happiness and well-being. So, I would like to, if a person behaved differently, if children grew up as child prodigies, chief tsіnuvav. All the same, your bajannya is more than yours, you cannot dictate to the restless, how they can be. Pin it to yourself with the truth in the rest of the instance. If you don’t have to look at it, you won’t rozcharuvan that image. Try to accept the real light from yoga with real problems.

Treat the traumas of the past, the unlivable pain

Do you know why you constantly attack the restless, behave aggressively and can’t relax? To that, if you had been in pain for a long time, but you couldn’t stand up for yourself, defend yourself (in a century, I’ll tell you about the most bizarre reasons). Now your brain is tormented by the past and is thirsty for payment, imitating a real picture, drawing inescapable dragons. Sob tse change, happen to turn back, close all gestalts. For whom it is necessary to go through the situation anew, to cry, to speak out, to put flecks. If you accept your passing, let the bil go, at once from the cim pide and aggression.

Putting on your shoulders an unbearable vantage, like being a victim, joke about compromises with your loved ones - and aggression vanishes.

Read about yourself, talk about your needs

Anger and anger do not show up in an empty place, most of the time we do it ourselves at the kut, being guided by the help of loved ones, bringing our own rightful baggage. We take responsibility for our families, children, creatures, but if we think about it, we should be aware that someone else will tell us about us. I tse pardon! No one can know how to make us happy, it is necessary to learn to speak about your needs in a voice, ask for help, delegate. Not weakness, but showing love to yourself. If you know your pain points, you can crush them. If you are going to be in such a blue light, so that you feel comfortable - share your breath, save an hour for yourself, joke about the balance between “I give” and “I accept”. To put an unbearable vantage on your shoulders, as if you were a victim, joke about compromises with your loved ones - and aggression vanishes.

Develop empathy to the point

As if you were attacked by a devilish attack of aggression, try to understand what you see on living people, as if they were not up to anything. Your children, fathers, other halves to love you, that without defense in front of your aggression can not stand up for themselves or drink. Don't be zhorstok, don't shift your problems onto them, don't stink, what's wrong with you. The wealthy of us have their own difficult life, how can you have the right to swear on your own thoughts? Vchіt bachiti svіt not only through his power, but for the eyes of other people, do not know other people's merits. Think more briefly about him, why are you so smart with your loved ones, why are you trimming them at the zhakov mittens, teaching them at the kohanna? Have you started behaving like this with yourself and now you are designing those same settings on the lonely? Why hasn't the time come to accept your imperfection and allow the world to be just as incomplete? Pin it up and lock your teeth, try to be friendly.

Why hasn't the time come to accept your imperfection and allow the world to be just as incomplete? Pin it up and zagartuvat teeth, try to make friends

Pratsiyuyte over galmuvannyam affective camp

I have a sensi your aggressive reaction to the light - it’s a shkidliva zvichka, it’s possible to correct it. Whether a beginner trains, we can learn positive thoughts, stifle panic in a stressful situation, and emotional self-control. Yak? Shukati techniques for managing anger - a robotic mindset, remembrance of respect, grounding, development of knowledge. Just as you realize that the blood has rushed to the face, the pulse has quickened, and the fists are clenched - try to tear the lances of the voices.

To let the unknown dreams in, having created a place for something new

One more nuance lies in the fact that your aggression may be the result of a lack of separation from plans that cannot be made. For example, a person got into an accident and became disabled. The very dream about the freedom of life to give you pain and rage to be angry, wanting to be wise in the future. But if a woman is a people of a child, she wastes too much beauty, freedom to change, car'ernist prospects. It is important to stop chiming in the past, allow yourself to be moved in the face of great ambitions for the sake of new possibilities and enmity. Only in this way it is possible to overcome aggression - having ceased to sumuvat, what will not become.

Aggression - a little, as if giving colossal energy. As soon as you lie down, where do you send your potential - at the cry, like, spitting bridges, what more? Possibly, the time has come to start fighting with light and direct anger in a constructive direction

Sublimate the energy of destruction in creation

Aggression - a little, as if giving colossal energy. As soon as you lie down, where do you send your potential - at the cry, like, spitting bridges, what more? Perhaps, the time has come to start fighting in the light and direct the anger in a constructive direction - sex, sports, creativity, professional self-realization? Why not increase your aggression with a spirit of inspiration, a motivator for great beasts? Before speech, energy potential, aggression, talk about those who need to put life on pause, listen to your heart, think, what are you doing wrong? Tse hint, what are you doing wrong.

Like bachite, aggression helps people look around, reevaluate consumption, pardon. Vaughn is not a foe, there is a friend, what a need to hear, and not to roll in a new one, hanging out on this castle. Come on, our thoughts were blue for you!

the rest of the nettle

On the way you step on your foot, and you clench your teeth. On the robot, the chef calls for yakus drіbnitsa. A friend sleeps, but you know that nothing happened. It’s possible, it’s easy for you to tell people that the stench doesn’t make a race and it’s ugly to behave. Otherwise, you just know that you are squeezing stosunki. And maybe, you know what is obscene and your emotions need to be streamed.

You endure this day for a month, and then you vibrate and wiggle all the accumulated emotions on the vipadkovy person. In a second after that splash, you begin to ring to yourself and do not understand how it happened.

What work. Try to let your emotions out in a skin-smooth mood. You can say your feelings ("I'm sicker", "I'm unacceptable a little bit") or write everything on paper without self-control (you can burn the last paper).

You get hurt

Your past seems to be in a situation where everything started. I, better for everything, don't remember about her. For example, at two roki, mother did not take you away from the child nursery for a long time, and the tutor said that mother had left you. And now, if you want to sleep, you vibrate, to the one who feels that very childish life, consider yourself self-sufficient and leave.

Be-yakі strong emotsії, scho blaming the middle, - tse show of injury. You can stifle them, or you can hang them, but you don’t propagate the docks, the reaction won’t change. At this moment, you don’t behave like a grown-up person, but like a little courtyard child. In this way, you react, however, on whether it’s zapіznennya independently from people.

What work. At the moment of going down, go to the camp of a posterigach (begin to marvel at yourself and the situation in the whole side). But all the more timchasovy zakhіd, which globally does not solve the problem.

You can also self-informed about why you are vibrating. What is the reason? What do you see at this moment? Tse help you better deal with problems.

For complete relief from injuries, it is necessary to correct the situation with the fahivtsy. If such a behavior is enforced, just stop chipating you, maybe you won’t cherish you.

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You can do it for others, but you can't for me

If you have hindered yourself, behave like this, but it’s in your eyes to repair it yourself like that. Often such a reaction is called out by children, and you are being teased.

For example, if you laugh loudly at the park, but you can’t calmly marvel at it, everything boils in the middle. You are going to term, or you begin to bark, then scream ahead. Because you can't do that!

Ale, it’s not possible for you to fence yourself. What you guess for yourself in childhood, then, singsongly, you will know that moment, if you have made yourself laugh out loud, stribati, or just for the sake of it. It’s possible, “growth is not to behave like that” - and you have become grown up in 10 years.

What work. Let yourself be those who fenced the rocks of the rocks. Find out that you can be happy in any country, you can work foolish children and wastelands. Not forgetting about environmental friendliness: these windings are not to blame for harming you or other people. It is obvious that you can shout in the fox or on the sea, or terrorize the courts with shouts after the beer - zayve.

You're covered: you think that's what you think about yourself

There are two people to stand: one is dead, the other is thin. The passerby throws the phrase: “You would lose weight!” How do you know who is vibing, and who can not feel it? To commemorate the one who thinks so herself, to navitt with all her might to try to get her. Under any circumstances, a person respects his own form of authority, її tse, better for everything, not to be chained.

If a person is inspired by his own product, he will accept criticism calmly, like a thought. Don’t be embarrassed, throw everything you do right, spend an hour looking at a boor, or slip into a pillow.

What work. Read it. Minify your thoughts about yourself and do not allow thoughts from the side to pour into self-esteem.

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Why is it important to live emotions?

If you block emotions, you harm yourself. Even if they start to finish the rich, the stench will begin to appear physically. If you show your emotions, then you hurt less. Ale and otochuyuchi not guilty of suffering in the presence of such a splendid life.

The axis of the spiel of ways of eco-friendly living of emotions:

• physical activity from us to release fear / anger (big, squat, boxing, beating a saw from a kilim or mixing a tough dough);
• meditation with the request “I want to live and let go”, “I want to get to know the situation”;
• vimalovuvannya of one’s feelings on the paper, zvilnennya in the form of smite, or ecologically spalling the paper with the intention to let go of all the guilt / anger;
• allowed himself to live emotions, give free rein to feelings;
• souls from us will be cleansed.

Where is happiness?

If you understand and probable your trauma, then you will increase the great amount of energy. Earlier, you needed it for you to block bіl i prihovuvat vіd uѕіh I can do to myself. The skin vibrating block promotes your sensitivity, zdatnіst radiance, the ability to relax and just be.

If you are like that, like you are, and you start, then you stop criticizing yourself for an hour. Understand your reality and do not live in illusions. You begin to develop and reach your goals.

The number of situations that people are changing, like you are being played with. And if you do not create new blocks, that psychosomatic illness. You do not have a bunch of thoughts that skarg on the current world. Todі z'yavlyaetsya hour on shchos. And then you can live, watch, commemorate the skin moment and enjoy it.